Wednesday, June 5, 2013

Pride and the Fruit of the Vine

It seems very clear to me that Jesus and the New Testament authors thought there were two important things people needed to understand:

1.      Salvation and life come through faith in the atoning death, and resurrection, of Jesus Christ.

2.      Because of their faith, believers should operate differently than non-believers. James calls this difference “works.” Jesus and Paul often referred to the results of faith in the life of a believer as “fruit.” All of them believed our “fruit” or “works” should, among other things, attract people to the gospel.

But what is this fruit, these works, they’re all talking about? What does it look like, in our real lives here on the ground? I was reading in the book of John recently, and these words of Jesus struck me as being a particularly good picture of this process:

I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit He prunes so that it will be even more fruitful. You are already clean because of the word I have spoken to you. Remain in me, as I also remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself, it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me. John 15:1-4

People can disagree about the definition of biblical “works” or “fruit.” Jesus’ words in John 15 and elsewhere lead me to believe it’s something different than we often suggest, but we experience it all the time. Try to hold those verses of John 15 in your head while I tell you a story…

There was an elder named “Tom,” who pulled “Sue,” a friend of mine, aside one day after a Sunday service. He wanted Sue to have a word with a teenaged girl about what she’d been wearing to church. Sue wasn’t surprised the issue had come up—the girl tended to arrive at Sunday services in clothing that would raise eyebrows on the Hollywood strip, let alone in this small, conservative, Evangelical congregation. Tom said the way the girl dressed was offending other women in the church and bothering the men.


So far, we can chalk up Tom’s reaction to ordinary human nature. People are commonly disturbed by appearances or actions of others outside their cultural norms, especially those of different generations. Because the Bible emphasizes modesty and humility, this can be a special source of contention among Christians when it’s coupled with legalism, and has caused a world of hurt in more than one church congregation. But our story continues…

Sue could sympathize with Tom and the other elders. At the same time, Sue was certain that it had taken a huge amount of courage for this girl to walk through those church doors, and she’d done so, all by herself, because she was thirsty for the Word of God and communion with other believers. Sue believed, at this delicate stage of the girl’s relationship with the congregation, if anyone mentioned her appearance she would feel embarrassed and judged and never darken the doors of the church again. Sue explained all this to Tom. She suggested for now, the elders avert their eyes if they had to, but somehow find a way to offer the girl grace and ignore her outward appearance. 

As she was speaking, Sue was counting the ways this conversation with Tom could go bad. In other churches at other times, she had experienced all of the following possible reactions that Tom might have:

1.      Tom might become defensive and say he was insulted that Sue thought she knew how to handle this situation better than him, and she was wrong to question his authority.
2.      Tom might start quoting scripture at Sue about how women should dress in the church and imply that Sue just wasn’t intelligent enough to understand the Bible like he did.
3.      Tom might claim that he was an elder in the church and older than Sue so she should just do what he told her, or he would find a more mature woman who could handle it.
4.      Tom might employ the nuclear option, which happens far too often in church congregations, and suggest that if Sue didn’t understand how important this issue was maybe both she and the girl would be more comfortable worshiping elsewhere.

There was another important thing that Sue knew—she knew Tom. Tom was definitely a product of Evangelical church culture. Truth be told, Sue was skeptical about the Evangelical church, this conversation being one of the reasons. But not Tom. Tom had come to know Jesus in church and he loved being involved in church culture, for many reasons. In fact, around town, one of his nicknames was “Tom the Baptist.”

But while people used Tom’s nickname in a tongue-in-cheek way, most of the time he was referred to with great affection. Tom was extremely grateful to God for the grace he had received, and because of that, he tended to be gracious. He was known for his hospitality and his willingness to help people in need. In fact, many people in town would have been astounded at all the needs that Tom met—because he didn’t make a big deal out of it. If he saw a need, he didn’t form a committee or start a Facebook campaign. He just met the need, as best he could, with the resources God had given him.

At the same time, Tom was a man, with a healthy male ego and some very definite ideas about biblical roles for women. So Sue really had no idea how Tom would react to what she was saying—she imagined many different outcomes, but not the one that actually happened.

Tom had approached Sue and described his discomfort with this girl and his perception of her lack of modesty. Sue had watched him go from disturbed, to self-righteous, to outrage. Now, as Sue explained her thinking, she watched the emotional battle raging inside him as it passed across his face. His outrage gave way first to defensiveness, then incredulousness, and finally, what Sue could only describe as bemusement. She finished speaking. There was silence for a moment. Then Tom grinned, said simply, “You’re right,” and walked away.

While Sue knew that Tom and the other elders had to battle against their gut reaction to the girl’s appearance in successive Sundays, that was the last time she ever heard any of them mention another congregant’s appearance. The girl, who is now a woman, is still attending the church. Whether or not she’s dressing more in keeping with the elders’ idea of appropriateness, Sue couldn’t tell me. It seems to have become a non-issue for everyone involved. In addition, the whole experience, and especially Tom’s reaction, gave Sue hope—hope in the value of a church community, and hope in the way God’s love can change a heart.

Fruit—the results of faith—not really the good or bad things we do or the opinions we hold, but a testimony to the truth of who we believe we are before God, and before our fellow believers. It has a ripple effect on the people around us that can’t be measured, and of which we are often unaware.

Do we respond to God and to others with pride or humility? This question is central to our lives as believers. James tells us that God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble. God so resists pride, it is often put into the same category as idolatry in the Bible—so much so that at times, the Bible makes pride and idolatry synonymous. I heard someone suggest recently that the sin of pride could be found at the root of every other sin.

When God says, through other people, circumstance, or the Bible, “this attitude, or opinion, or belief, or thing—that you hold so dear—it’s not of Me, you must give it up,” what do we say?

We can shake our fists at the CEO we’ve made God into. We can look at Him and defiantly demand our bonus pay. “Not this time. You owe me this for all I’ve done for you. I deserve this.”

Or we can fall to our knees at the foot of the cross in humility and thankfulness—changed, pruned clean, and ready to love.

The latter, I believe, is proof of faith—it is John 15—it is the Christian life.



1 comment:

  1. Great story Lisa. Pride does come before the fall, and fall at the feet of Jesus is what we need to do. It is recognizing that pride that is the issue with many humans. We don't want to give up that pride. One of the things that has bothered me lately, like the past few years, is when people say, "you're right," especially when it involves two "believers." God has really spoken to me concerning this- that it is not about who is right or wrong - it is not about us, but about HIM. I love how Jesus used the analogy of the vine and the fruit - it is so real for farmers here in the central valley, and having a small orchard of our own, it has been a great way to teach the boys this life lesson.

    So, ditto, ditto, if we are in the vine and the vine is in us, then we are one with the Father or "root stock" and we will produce fruit that is good because it is of God and God is good. Being in that sweet spot, we will say what we need to say when we need to say it, and we will do God's will when he prods us. Sometimes I need an extra dose of prodding to do His will, but eventually I come around and give up my pride or my own will and surrender to do whatever He asks. Sometimes it is fear of knowing what He is going to ask me to do that keeps me from going forward, but "Perfect Love Casts Out Fear," so I can't use that excuse.

    So, thought you would tackle something light! Just this morning as I was doing my devotional I was struck by how deep just one verse in the Bible can be: "Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good." Romans 12:9 The woman in your story was truly allowing God's love to shine through when she spoke to pastor Tom. So in a sense she was right to follow God's prodding or tugging on her heart to be merciful to the young lady, but it all originates with God, who is truly righteous, loving, forgiving, and merciful. We are given the freedom to choose to do the right thing, but all the glory goes to God. Thank you Jesus for your Holy Spirit that guides us in paths of righteousness.

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